Friday, March 8, 2019

50 Years

I turn 50 years old this weekend.
I can remember a time when I thought 30, 40, and 50 were old. And now here I am, 50 years old and it's not as old as I thought. 

I've learned a lot things in my 50 years. But here are a few things I feel are important to know. 

Be fair. Be honest. Be generous. Respect others.

Marriage is hard work. There are highs and lows, but it is very much worth it.

Anyone who judges you by the kind of car you drive or shoes you wear is not someone worth impressing.

I’m fat. I’ve gotten over it and you should too.

Visit or talk to your parents and grandparents often. You will realize once they are gone just how much you got out of those visits and conversations.

Let your kids climb in bed and snuggle with you. One day they won’t, and you will miss it.

Develop a strong handshake (even if you are a woman) No one wants to shake hands with someone who’s hand is limp.

When you mess up, fess up. Apologizing isn’t always easy but it’s the right thing to do.

Be truthful or be quiet.

Your education isn’t complete until you’ve learned to take a hint.

Whatever your passion, pursue it as though your days were numbered, because they are.

Your grown children are simply wonderful. But so are your younger children. Enjoy every moment, it goes by fast.

Drink lots of water. It’s good for you, your brain, and your body.

Treasure your friendships. Keep your circle small. Know it’s also ok to end friendships with compassion and finality.

Be patient with people – most are often just trying to help.

Hug your kids and tell them you love them every day.

Failure is going to happen. Pick yourself up and dust your self off and keep moving forward.

Don’t get caught up with what you see in the mirror, because it reflects only a tiny part of how beautiful you are.

Language is a powerful weapon and the words you say will either soothe, hurt, engage, or damage those around you, including yourself.

Losing a loved one is painful. It’s hard and it’s ugly. But when you remember them, smile no matter what. Over time smiling at the memories will help ease the pain.

Everyone else is just as worried and insecure as you are. Some just hid it better. It doesn’t mean they are smarter.

Laugh often.

It’s just stuff. It gets broken or lost in a flood. But ultimately, it’s just stuff. The memories will always be there.

Don’t judge. You don’t know all the facts. We all have faults and bad habits.

Take the girls trip. Laughter with girlfriends is great medicine.

Always let someone proofread. It usually makes a difference.

Pamper yourself. Get your hair done, get a pedicure. It will always make you feel better.

Monday, January 21, 2019

Happy 14th

Happy 14th Birthday R2!

How can you be 14? Time has really flown by. I know I say this often but only because it really has. 

Your dad and I love you very much and we hope your day is as amazing you are! 

Wednesday, November 21, 2018


It's been a while since I've sat down to write a blog post that contained of any sustenance. And if I'm being honest, it's been a long while. 

The truth is not really that much has been happening that doesn't happen to other people. The normal and mundane life. I mean I can write everyday that we did homework and had either football or basketball practice. I can write what I or Hubs cooked for dinner. But unless I had a cooking, which I do not, no one wants to read that.

I took an unintentional break to be present in my family's life. As much as I want to chronicle the lives of my family, I decided being present mattered more. I wanted to be there and involved. I wanted to live in moment with them. I wanted to be there with my camera in hand to capture the moment they would one day look back on and remember that millisecond of time.  

I've also learned how to say no to things I felt took to much time away from my family. I've learned how to not feel bad about it either. My family is my first priority and they are the ones who I want to spend my time with,even if we are sitting around watching Harry Potter for the 985412637 time. My time with them is something I'm just not willing to comprise on. 

So I hope you enjoy Thanksgiving with your family. I hope you have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year. And maybe I'll drop in here and there but for now, I've given myself permission to be with the ones I love the most, my family.

Monday, October 22, 2018

It's Over

Well it's taken me this long to come to terms that the Astros will not be in the world series this year. 

I was really hoping we would be going all the way to the end October. 

This isn't the look of defeat, it's the look of we are taking a few days off, some of us are having surgery, to heal, recoup, and get ready for next season.  We've got 121 days and we will be back.

 Thanks guys for another amazing season, I'm sad it's over. 

Thursday, October 4, 2018

It's Post Season

It's post season baby! Do work boys.

Thursday, September 20, 2018

Year 21

You are one of the best gifts God has given me. 

You are my person.

You are my friend, my supporter, my soft landing. 

My tough love, my believer of dreams, my validator, my reminder.

My holder of fears, my knower of deep secrets, my release of self doubt. 

My trusted space, my sacred soul, my forever bond. 

Happy 21 Anniversary Hubs! I love you.  

Monday, September 17, 2018

God's Timing Is Perfect

I posted this on Facebook on August 28. Which marked one year after Hurricane Harvey. 
"I am not the same person I was a year ago. Harvey changed me. 
We along with so many others we know lost our homes and everything we held close. I lost the sense of security my home provided for me and my family. 
But today I am focusing on the positive. I am choosing to see God's hand in all of this. I know it was only by His grace, peace, and timing we are where we are today. 
I'm not discounting the struggle to get here. It was tough. The emotional ties to certain items we lost still makes my breath catch when I think of them and still brings me to tears. And even thought we had a brand new home 3 months later, we were still fighting with the insurance company for another 4 months. 
However, in the midst of all the chaos I always felt peace. I felt God's presence and knew he would take care of us. I am so grateful for friends, high school classmates, family, and strangers who helped us. We are so much better off today than we were before Harvey. 
God's timing is always perfect."
It has been a whirlwind since I posted this.
Between all the memories of the one year anniversary stirred up combined with the Facebook memories which weren't helping either, I was feeling a sad. I had a Facebook memory pop up two days later that had me crying at the words R1 spoke.

There has been so much sadness that only piled on to those memories. This past week our community lost two teenagers in a tragic car accident. R1 had known one of them since kindergarten and the other since 8th grade, he even took her to their senior prom in May. 

So as you can see it's been a hard week.

But again I chose to focus on the positive and the one who gave me faith and hope.